Being a victim of rape or sexual violence is not desirable. Rape is a sadistic, deadly self-esteem, and causes the victim’s psychological and physical trauma. Victims of rape experience stress, fear, anxiety mixed up. Therefore, if you become a victim storyteller, be careful what you say. Precisely do not make more victims feel the downturn. Here are six sentences that should not be spoken to the victim.
1. “Why is the story now?”
This sentence can make victims disappointed. Many victims of trauma, it is very difficult to talk about what happened to others. It could be due to fear of unbelief, guilt, immense shame, and anxiety that the perpetrator will take revenge. With how dare the victim tell you, it means the victim believes in you now. Do not think if the victim does not trust you or does not trust you.
Rather than saying this sentence, it is better to stress their positive strength on the trauma they experience and appreciate their courage and honesty.
2. “Why do not you fight back?”
Saying this sentence to the victim is very inappropriate and painful.
When the victim is attacked by the perpetrator, the victim is in a state of shock. They do not believe what happened. Victims of rape are sometimes there who can still resist although eventually also lost. However, some can not move a bit as if his body is not part of him anymore.
After this incident, the victim will have a tremendous sense of remorse for himself. Why can not I fight? Why can not I fight even harder? Full of regret is imposed on itself because of the effects of shock and the inadequacy that they do.
Never ask any question in this direction again to the victim because they have enough pain to face all his regrets.
3. “Just now you just obey!”
When the victim tells you, do not immediately decide how the victim should overcome what happened. After experiencing sexual harassment, the victim experiences trauma that is beyond her control. Help the victim to control himself first.
If it is calmer, you may ask if there is anything you can do to help him, rather than dictating the victim should do what. You can provide suggestions for the victims, but not with coercion.
4. “Why did you go there? What kind of clothes did you wear then? “
Asking such questions only adds to the negative stigma and guilt experienced by the victim. What’s wrong in this is the culprit, not what the victim or his clothes do. You should instead believe the victim that this is not the fault of the victim, do not even interrogate him like a criminal.
5. “This is all the way.”
This kind of sentence will only make the victim feel she deserves a big disaster like this. Though, of course no one deserves to be treated inhumanely.
If you believe this sentence, it’s okay and there’s nothing wrong. But save yourself for yourself, not when the victim told you then you said it.
6. “Others have more severe cases.”
Giving this statement inhuman to the victims of rape and as if underestimating their pain. Never compare what happens to the victim’s life to what happens in other cases. Especially when the victim heard of a similar case is actually triggered fear and anxiety becomes increasingly. Be careful not to mention any other cases of rape to the victim.